The Rules written by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider provides a simple set of traditional dating rules that have been around for centuries. In fact there's a good chance your Grandma became a "creature unlike any other" before heading to the all night dance marathon with your Grandpa in the 1920s. However, times have changed and today's woman is independent, self sufficient, likely has a masters degree, and doesn't need a man to make her happy- or so she thinks.The truth is, no matter how individualistic modern women may be, human beings desire companionship. The Rules claims to provide time tested secrets for capturing the heart of Mr. Right. Even Oprah is a fan!

"The Rules isn't just a book, it's a movement honey."

-Oprah Winfrey

The Rules At a Glance

  • Be a creature unlike any other.
  • Show up to parties, dances, and social events even if you don't feel like it.
  • It's a fantasy relationship unless a man asks you out.
  • In an office romance, do not email him back every time he emails you unless it is business related.
  • If you are in a long-distance relationship, he must visit you at least three times before you visit him.
  • When considering whether to use personal ads or other dating services, you should place the ad and let men respond to you.
  • If he does not call, he is not that interested. Period.
  • Close the deal- Rules women do not date men for more than two years.
  • Buyer Beware- Observe his behavior so you do not end up with Mr. Wrong.
  • Keep doing The Rules even when things are slow.

What is a Creature Unlike Any Other?

Becoming a creature unlike any other is a state of mind. It is a sense of confidence and happiness that is evident to other people, particularly men. Become a creature unlike any other by first taking care of yourself. Eat healthy and go to the gym. Wear makeup and fashionable clothes. Pamper yourself by scheduling regular manicures, pedicures, facials, etc. By maintaining your physical appearance, you will naturally create confidence within yourself.

How The Rules Work:

Men respond well to a challenge. That is why they enjoy playing sports. When a woman is constantly accessible, men become bored. The same goes for sharing too much information about yourself too quickly. If you share everything from your favorite Lifetime movie to what color bra you're wearing on the first date, chances are he will have no desire to ask you out on a subsequent date. Avoid this let down by allowing him to lead the conversation and enjoying light small talk on the first date. If you follow The Rules, there will be plenty of time to get to know each other in the future!

Why do The Rules?

By following the rules as defined in the book, you are protecting yourself from rejection as well as avoiding a relationship with Mr. Wrong. The Rules help weed out any sketchy candidates by setting a higher standard for your dating life. In essence, following this simple set of guidelines will help simplify your dating life while on the quest for Mr. Right.

Fein, Ellen and Sherrie Schneider. The Rules. New York: Warner 1995