Going through a divorce is one of the most stressful, heart-wrenching life changes, especially if there are children involved. Some divorces are harder than others, particularly if the parties no longer behave reasonably and amicably.

Traditional wisdom says mothers are favored by the courts; however, more and more men are fighting for their children and their rights. These men are finding out the hard way that protecting their rights and their relationship with their children is not that easy. The following dos and don’ts are but the briefest starting tips for those men who are willing to try.

Do be absolutely sure this is the best for all parties.

There are times in all relationships when things don’t seem to be going well; this is natural. Divorce should be the absolute last resort. Realize that the lives of everyone involved will be affected adversely, financially and emotionally. If divorce is the only option left, now is the time to collect your thoughts, develop a plan, and begin making all of the necessary efforts to protect yourself and your children.